What could happen if…
You stopped comparing?
We all do it and will
probably continue to from time to time – the I wish I had, looked like, was as
good as, smart as, talented as, thin as, fit as, pretty as, fun as and on it
goes. It can be an endless parade of, if
only I had that or was that, well look out, then I would be happier and so
the story goes. There is a fine line between admiration and competition,
appreciation and comparison and knowing the line can be a big ol’ relief and a
big step on the path to personal freedom. What could happen if you stopped crossing the
line?
You will focus on you. You will live your
life. Your strengths, talents and skills often go underappreciated and
undervalued as you are coveting that which you wish you were, rather than
developing that which you are. Because no two people are exactly alike, even
identical twins – you must stop comparing apples to oranges. It is uneven,
unfair and ultimately unnecessary.
You will feel more connected to others. Comparisons will lead to resentments – why not me, why do they get to?
This creates a state of competition and begrudgement and blocks your
willingness to connect and create meaningful relationships.
You will live in the present. You will stop somedaying
your life away; waiting for the moment when you have this or look like that or
have achieved xyz in order to be fulfilled or satisfied. You will make choices
in the present and will no longer waste time wondering, but will get down to
the business of wielding.
“Comparison
is the death of joy.” ~Mark Twain
HOW:
APPRECIATE. Learn to give praise and
genuinely recognize the contributions of others. See people for what they
offer, rather than what you perceive they are taking from you. Another person’s
success, skills, smarts or talents do not rob you of yours or make yours less
valuable.
BE MOVED. Be inspired and motivated
by a life well lived. Recognize that the very thing you covet in others is a
signal to you that you want to grow or experience more or different or new in
your life. You are not in competition with them, you are in admiration. Use
it.Learn from it. Thank it. Let it lift and guide you, not limit and frustrate
you. Be moved - means just that - be moved to action.
CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESS. Take time to acknowledge
risks you are taking, choices you have made, accomplishments you are proud of and areas where you have grown. Stop waiting to get there or to be perfect
or to be as good as! You must give
yourself credit and celebrate the steps you take each day.
GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR
FEELINGS. Read the clues of your comparisons.
When you are comparing, you are believing that someone else has the magic formula
to the feelings you most wish you were experiencing. You do not have to wait or
dramatically change every aspect of your life in order to feel joy, or calm or
excited today. Find ways to promote these feelings now.
CREATE A LIFE OF VALUE. Understand what is really
important to. What really matters to you? What do you value? Live your life
orientated around these things. When you are living your life based on what is
most significant to you, you will not be comparing yourself to others, but
caring about others. You will not be jealous, but developing and growing with
others. You will not be resentful, you will be relishing in their success and
yours. You will be living your life On Purpose; intentionally creating the
connection, contribution, community and quality that you desire. You will be
living a life of No Comparison!
1 comment:
Very Well Said!
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